ARRRRGHH!     Gosh now I wonder if I should have just left well enough alone and dealt with my anger and disappointment on my own.  Well I did that anyway.  I guess what I mean with on my own is to just deal with it all internally and not question. 

For future reference to myself.  Calling counselor with questions is not a good idea.  Well it's a good idea if it's your personal counselor whom you see on a regular basis.  It's not a good idea when it's your mates counselor and you've been to visit a couple of times for a support type of meeting.

Case in point.  Fathers Day last.  Yep just this last Sunday.  The one with the issues posted about earlier.  Well Monday I called said counselor.  Left messasge.  Said we had issues I wanted to discuss with her.  Namely said Fathers Day issue.  Along with the marriage counselling...support groups....etc.  And the biggie ... we haven't even begun to hit any of our stuff.  Our conversations are brief, maybe 2-3 times a week.  About the weather type stuff.

So I questioned.  And I didn't like what I found out.  Seems he's been telling said counselor everything is fine.  We don't need to continue.  We converse great.  Um.... hello.  Who the hell have you been talking to?  Sure as hell isn't me.  See above.

And that he can continue with the support and groups as long as he's at the TLC program.  Next step from half-way house to freedom.  Notice she said "he".  Ummm does that mean I'm not needed for support anymore.  Or for counseling.  GRRRR.  She said that she would talk to him tonight.  Set up a meeting with me and him and her.  So I told her...from experience.  If he baulks at the meeting cause I called you and contradicting his statements to you then drop it.  I got my answer.  We don't need counseling after that.  Why the hell should I continue putting out the extra work for the relationship side.

I mean torture is all fine as long as it's fun and enjoyable and both parties want to participate.  But no thanks.  I don't need to be jerked around like that anymore.  I've done enough.  So we'll see.  I'm sure I'll either continue to be ignored .... or I'll get a phone call from a very pissed of male that I'm interfering in his recovery again. 

And I'll say it again like I did on Father's Day....  You better start investing some time in your family before you family isn't there for you anymore.  GRRRRRR.